I'm looking for books that address the compulsion to "fix" troubled relationships, particularly non-romantic ones. When relationships become strained, I struggle with an overwhelming urge to repair them, often crossing boundaries in the process. While I've developed some self-control, I'm seeking resources to better understand and address the emotional drivers behind this pattern.
Specifically interested in books that explore:
* Managing the impulse to take responsibility for others' relationships
* Learning to accept when relationships remain unresolved
* Understanding boundary dynamics in friendship/family contexts
* Emotional regulation beyond just self-control
Non-fiction recommendations welcome.
by MollyInanna2
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I’m reading The Lost Art of Listening by Michael Nichols and a lot of the book is about taking responsibility for your expectations from your relationships, and taking what people mean with what they say seriously. You can only be responsible for yourself and your needs, and only offer so much to others. There’s a lot of value I’m finding that aligns with your request, hope it helps!
*Turn this world inside out* by Nora Samaran addresses some of this.