Hi. Title says it all, I guess.
Recently I've observed and suffered a lot about seeing that I am constantly making myself unhappy by comparing myself to imaginary and unrealistic standards.
That includes things like being unhappy about my relationship when I see other girls that are smarter, "more striking" (I know how objectifying this sounds); people who use less social media and are more calm about themselves and their future; seeing how I used to be more settled and on top of things vs. now where I am in more stress and distract myself with games, social media, and what not.
And I am quite sure, upon reflection, that it's not actually about being unhappy about my state. Because I am. But the constant unhappyness about wanting to be on the greener side of the grass (that probably doesn't exist in reality) makes me 1. unhappy and 2. puts me under a lot of stress which is the urge to improve my life.
It's the constant "I would be happy when I would have X", while X is some imaginary construct that oftentimes isn't realistic. And while completely disregarding all the nice, wonderful things, that I have in life, like my job, which I am really happy about, my hobbies which I like, my fitness, of which I could be proud of.
I am looking for some kind of book that just puts this into perspective, and maybe gives me some practical tips on how to overcome this.
If this rings a bell in someone, please shout out your tips!
Thanks in advance!
by wobfan_