Hi, I'm dating a person from another culture that said they want to step out of their culture into my culture to accommodate me. I don't think this is realistic nor desirable. Instead, I think it's important for us to focus on ourselves as individuals that may be influenced by culture but have the power of choosing to design a relationship in the way that we want. Also, I think that within a culture, there exist lots of differences that make it impossible to perceive culture as a monolithic ruleset that can be exchanged.
They asked me for a book on the topic. Can someone recommend one that takes into account the points above? It can be fictional or non-fictional.
Thanks!
by rrtgrrl