Hi all- I'll try to make this succinct. I've always had a polite but distanced relationship with my in-laws. They're good people and have been kind to me, but ever since having my daughter who is now 9 months old (their first grandchild), their level of obsession with her has driven me a bit nuts. They don't live in state, but visit (and stay in our house) for weeks as a time, and while they're around, I am VERY overwhelmed by their behavior. They constantly want to hold my daughter and take her into different rooms without me, and I generally feel very out of control when they're around. It's not that they don't listen to me, but they simply don't ever ask me anything about how I want things handled with my daughter. I want my daughter to have a good relationship with them, they love her so much, and would like to find the tools to navigate this new phase of our relationship. They have her safety and best interest at heart, but it just doesn't occur to them they what they think isn't what I want necessarily? I don't expect them to change, I would just like to find tools to be able to stand up for myself and not lament over interactions. I'm seeing a therapist about this as it has caused several anxiety attacks but would also like to arm myself with some reading. Any suggestions?
Edit: I'll also add: I'm a very relaxed parent and their level of intensity and obsession with my child gives me anxiety, and I want them to back off 😂
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