I want an easy to read book for a friend. I feel like i've told them how to deal with this but for some reason they keep wasting their energy and keep feeling like they need to argue people in their life that are really only in this friend's life to belittle them and point out how my friend is a bad person (really how my friend is worse then them). I tried to tell my friend to not waste 1-3 hours of energy on the phone with trying to argue with this person over petty shit. i.e. My friend (her) that i'm trying to help has 1 particular person in her life that like to belittle her and do stuff to make her feel bad. I feel like this friend of hers does this becuase they want to feel better about themselves and own situation. They're both in the same situation from my perspective. They both are females, have kids, are about 30-32 years old, a non supportive father, substance abuse issues, and really need to learn how to love themselves. Also, my friend isn't very intelligent and doesn't like reading in their spare time… so that's why i kind of asked for an easy to read book… The lesson i want her to kind of learn is to stop wasting time and energy on trying to fix things that are out of her control. I want her to learn how to accept things you can't change in life (like how other people act) and to not waste so much time on fixing things she really can't and focusing on things that she can change (her perspective, outlook on life, idk yall get it) . Thank you all for your help in advance.
TLDR- book on how to not waste energy, time and effort towards negative things in your life that they can't change.
by anonOP1337