Hi everyone, first time posting here and I could use all the help I can get. Simply put my relationship had been stable for a good amount of time, nearly 4 years before things started to get rocky and we started to distance emotionally and sexually. We had broken up about a month and a half ago but still are talking and communicating but I have put extra stress on the situation and I am afraid. I genuinely want things to get better and want all the help I can get to fix things and I want a good book that would help both of us since I am the anxious one and she is the avoindant. I tend to overshare and rush things, while she shuts down and doesn't talk about it and I want something that would help us firstly able to properly communicate with each other and build that emotional bond back first before a physical one.
by Miringhost
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I recommend that if she is open, that you both read “The seven principles for making marriage work” by dr john gottman, and to find a good couples therapist in your area. Read the book one chapter at a time and talk about it together, and find a good therapist to help you navigate tough conversations together.