I need a book for my (young adult) sister’s birthday. A while ago I semi-jokingly suggested asking Reddit to find a book like this for her but she actually liked the idea.
Basically she keeps getting in relationships with men who make comments on her weight, don’t make time for her, and don’t care about her interests. The thing is, she’s very strong-willed and stands up for herself EXCEPT with people she’s dating because she really wants to be in a lasting relationship.
I want to find a book for her (fiction or nonfiction) that will either give insight into healthier relationships, help her to develop self worth outside of a relationship, and/or how to move on from/understand the men who have treated her poorly so she can get over trying to go back to them and stop blaming herself. She loves romance but is open to reading anything.
I once heard Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft get recommended for something similar but it seemed more focused on abuse, but if anyone has read it and still thinks it could be helpful please let me know!
by VeryRatmanToday
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I would suggest Codependent No More. It helped me when I was struggling with some addiction issues related to childhood trauma. I was very codependent with friends and spouses at the time which led into many abusive and toxic relationships.
All About Love – Bell Hooks
Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft
I’m literally reading the book she needs right now.
How to be an adult in relationships, the five keys to mindful loving by David Richo