Hey guys. Thanks for the help in advance.
Sooo I tend to get attached super quickly and then end up with the wrong people. When I date someone I lose focus on myself and my life, and start focusing entirely on the other person. If they’re upset, I always feel like it must be my fault somehow. And I end up wasting so much time overthinking about that person or what I have to change about myself.
I also tend to stay with people who don’t really convince me, or who have very different beliefs and values from mine, just because “they’re not bad people.” But most of the time, they end up being bad for me anyway.
Now I want to focus on myself. I want to become someone who, if I notice something is wrong for me, doesn’t get more attached trying to fix it.
I'd like some book recommendations that could help me focus on my own needs and discover what they truly are? Or maybe that could explain why I get attached and stay even tough I feel shitty or even tough I know they are not the right person for me
by valeguerrs
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A friend of mine had very similar habits. She read “The Four Agreements” and really liked it. It’s a short read so might be worth it