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    My mom died over 10 years ago when I was very young and I never grieved properly or at all. Everything I’ve read is from the perspective of recently losing someone. Please recommend something

    by sam2o2

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    1. Pretend_Ad4572 on

      I have a little known novel for you:

      Sergei Itzam Coiot (author) Book: ‘The Bogs of Surrendered Names'(Amazon)

      Here’s the blurb about it if you wanna check it out:

      You can get lost in your own dreams, but what if you got lost in someone else’s?

      In *The Bogs of Surrendered Names*, Ronnie Vseslav is a 38-year old musician. The early death of his mother left him with a secret desire for family, consisting now only of an estranged brother. He wakes in a desert hotel, where, through a distortion of time and doors that open to lush imaginary worlds, he is caught in a triangle between the mysterious undead hotel owner the Captain and his beautiful equally mysterious maid Linda.

      Old grudges and grief manifest their world into a nightmarish painting, challenging the nature of reality and the malleability of memory and the mind. As the line between dreams and reality is broken, the secrets that lie behind this prison of paradise takes the novel to a soaring shattering climax that none in the hotel can escape.

      *The Bogs of Surrendered Names* is a surreal character and plot-driven novel that takes place in both the past and in the future, and examines loneliness, love and human perception of belonging.

    2. This is a bit of an unusual suggestion but I recommend only forward by Michael Marshall Smith. At first it seems like an action thriller with some dark comedy thrown in but there’s more to it. It’s also about dreams, loss, trauma, the conscious and the unconscious.

    3. Any / All of Claire Bidwell Smith’s books. Highly, highly recommend, particularly her first one, __*Rules of Inheritance*__.

    4. Disclaimer; I haven’t finished this book yet (started yesterday) but it might be exactly what you’re looking for: The Collected Regrets of Clover by Mikki Brammer

    5. I don’t have a great suggestion for you in terms of grieving a loss years later, but I’m curious to hear what others suggest. I just finished Forever, Interrupted by TJR and I felt like I got a lot out of it.

    6. SpaceGirlKashmir on

      Unattended Sorrow – Stephen Levine and The Wild Edge of Sorrow – Frances Weller

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