Hi yall, I'm looking for a book to gift my husband.
He's dealing with a lot of anxiety, guilt and fear of anger. His father was violent, used to beat him up and abuse him mentally and emotionally, insulting him, accusing him of being worthless and making him feel at fault at all times, even when he hadn't done anything at all.
He now lives with the constant feeling of being a criminal, terrified of getting caught for something he doesn't know he may have committed. He obsesses over his behavior, on being a perfect person and the idea of someone being angry at him really triggers him. He is the sweetest person and it makes me feel terrible that this still affects him.
Are there any good books on this?
Or If you've read any of these, which one do you think would fit better between:
● The body keeps the score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk
● Outgrowing the pain: a book about adults abused as children, by Eliana Gil
● It wasn't your fault (…), by Beverly Engel
Please let me know if you have any other suggestions!
Thank you for the help 💖
by AffectionatePear1606
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The body keeps the score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk is my suggestion, though that book also has faced some criticism. But it’s based on science and one that is widely recommended by therapists and many other people who have experienced trauma. It’s not an easy read but many people find something of value from it. Wish your husband best of luck in his recovery.