Everyone’s always told me “You have to love yourself before you can love others”. Whether that’s true or not, I don’t know. But I know I’ve never really loved myself ever. In fact, I don’t even know how that would manifest. Giving myself a hug more often? No one’s ever really clear on it. But I digress.
I also don’t really have any friends, and never had any (I’m 30 now, also). So while I ponder abandoning the endeavor for good to make friends, I figure if I’m going to be by myself most of the time, I should learn to be okay with it and accept myself. But I don’t know how to do this and was wondering if there are any books that give detailed instructions or guidance on how to do this.
by Mad_Season_1994
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There was a passage in Either/Or by Søren Kierkegaard that said that when you find yourself in a storm and you’re reaching your hand out for your neighbor to grab and pull you out but no one is reaching out for you, it asks what exactly is stopping you yourself from grabbing your own hand and guiding yourself out? A helping and kind hand is always appreciated but it was never once necessary in order for you to find your own way and not to say that you are doing anything wrong but I think the first step is realizing your own capability to lift your own weight and to better understand yourself and what you really need.
Hope this helps.