I’ve read smut and spicy books since before we met (haunting Adeline, credence, there are no saints, etc). Everytime he sees im reading he looks up the book and starts to go off abt how gross it is and how I shouldn’t be into reading books abt multiple men etc. mind u I read all of these before we started dating. He’s killing my love for reading bc he’s making me feel gross. He’s acting like I’m turned on by non con and all of the heavier themes in the book and he makes me sound like I enjoy 🍇. What do I do? I just want to read what I like 😭
by Alternative_Two9654
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Find a less insecure/judgemental boyfriend?
Dump his ass
Tell him either to shut the fuck up or leave!
Yeah this sounds pretty toxic. Not sure how long you’ve been together but it doesn’t sound like a path towards a healthy relationship
Put a boundary. (Ex: No talking about what I’m reading if it’s going to be a criticism ; don’t talk badly about the things that bring me joy).
Yeah just enjoy it. I my experience if my wife is reading smut I have more sex so I am not sure what his issue is with the situation.
If you are determined not to find a new boyfriend and read your erotica, and him be okay with it. You should perhaps find a scene with from a book you like and see if he would be interested in role playing from it. Presumably it would end in an activity he finds enjoyable.
Start criticizing the things he enjoys. Just kidding, kinda. Its like when people equate books to porn. A book is just 26 letters rearranged, no one was harmed in the making of a story. Does he read books at all?
My husband reads more smut than I do.
Not gonna tell you what to do, just know that he’s not the only guy out there.
Your boyfriend is an insecure person and wishes to control you instead of working through his insecurity. Don’t spend your time with someone who tries to make you feel bad about yourself.
You are incompatible.
FWIW I wouldn’t embark on a relationship with someone who read smutty books. (I’m a woman btw.) Nothing wrong with you and your reading taste; it’s just an incompatibility.