Book recommendations to deconstruct my male entitlement to being able to gaze at women

I recently read a post of a woman saying that she feels sad about being glared at like she is a sex object. I felt quite sad and even guilty because I have a habit of scanning my surroundings for pretty women. And if I spot someone, I look and smile at them because they are pleasant to look at. But I feel like this behavior of mine, collectively with other men also staring that way could be very taxing on women everyday.

I know that what I’m doing is wrong. But, I can’t get myself to look away. Maybe it’s because I’m hoping that they’ll smile back at me. Or that they might speak to me. But I want to stop myself from feeling entitled to the image of these beautiful people. My mind is split between- “I’m only looking, I’m not trying to harm them.” and “I’m objectifying this whole-ass person, who has a whole life and struggle of their own- for my visual pleasure”.

Is there a book or an essay I could read to possibly humanize women more? in my head? I want to understand how it affects ordinary women and the impacts it has on them. I have read books before to help deconstruct my racism for white people. It has helped reduce my demonization of white people in viewing them as privileged imperialists.

Could you please help with books that might help me understand how the male gaze has been so normalized and where my entitlement comes from?