my parents haven’t been the best role models when it comes to their relationship, and it has molded me into this person (24f) who is okay with being yelled at and being told i’m loved within a span of ten minutes. i fall into emotions very quickly, becoming color blind with flags and eventually feeling betrayed because i just don’t pick the right men. i am pretty disorganized/anxiously attached depending on the person, and i feel like my MH gets in the way of my functioning when another person gets tangled into my life. i like the chase, but i end up crashing and burning. im tired. SOS
by loudvomitingnoises
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Try to find a therapist who works with trauma and family dynamics.
I know Adult Children of Immature Parents helped me understand.
SO MANY BOOKS!
I’m Glad My Mom Died
The Art of Selfishness
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Getting in Touch with Your Inner Bitch
Also r/raisedbynarcissists
Outshining Trauma: A New Vision of Radical Self‑Compassion by Ralph De La Rosa.
When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron.
Well done on already noticing the areas where you’re struggling, because that self‑awareness is a powerful first step. You might benefit from turning your focus inward for a while such as practicing self‑love, self‑care, and listening more closely to your own feelings before leaning so much on trying to please others. This inner work can help you build clearer boundaries and a stronger sense of yourself, which will in turn support healthier relationships with others.
Taking time to find a path, whether through therapy, mindfulness, or other practices, that supports your wellbeing can gradually help you loosen the conditioning you’ve inherited and move toward a greater sense of freedom and inner stability.
Namaste, and wishing you courage and kindness on your journey.
What My Bones Know !