Hi all! This is a pretty hyper specific issue but I’m open to all recommendations fiction or nonfiction.
My grandparents are moving back to their home country in SE Asia within the next few months for the end of their life. I’m their only grandchild and their relationships with their kids (my mom and my uncle) are pretty fractured and splintered, so I’m the closest to them in my family. I’m having a hard time processing their move and how I probably won’t be there for their last days. We have a complicated relationship but they essentially raised me. Yes I am seeking therapy but was wondering if there were any books that could help me process and maybe not feel so adrift and alone. Thank you all for your help!
by indomeme
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Not a book the but movie The Farewell kinda deals with this
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Obviously it’s not quite the same as what you’re going through, but Michelle Zauner’s Crying in H Mart did come in mind! It’s a wonderful, and wonderfully raw and personal memoir about identity (both in general as a young adult and wrt being Asian-American specifically) and family and grief focusing on the period of time around her mother getting diagnosed with cancer and her death. It’s quite devastating but it might help with feeling less alone in the whole situation. It doesn’t deal with preemptive grief, but another book that brought me more comfort than anything else when I lost my grandfather was Kitchen by Banana Yoshimoto which is about a girl working through her grief and experiencing all the sadness and loneliness but slowly finding her way back to life after losing her grandmother who raised her, I really recommend that too. I’m also really sorry and wish you lots of strength, take care 🤍