Hello,
I (23M) am currently in a relationship of 3 years. My lady (22F) and I had a rocky year being together due to some troubles balancing our differences. In short, she’s amazing and very ambitious, always on top of things and pursuing a better job. For me, I have been working in a decent paying job that I’m starting to hate and never really did anything by myself, just with her. Long story short, we are currently on a break so that I can find myself and be more independent instead of relying on her for activities/instead of making her feel like she has to be the one to take care of me when I’m alone.
After a long but productive conversation with her older cousin who knows both sides, he confirms that she is wanting me to explore myself, find out what I want to do when she’s not around. And I am looking into a lot of ways to fulfill that goal for myself.
But the one thing I’m struggling with is being patient, and I’m aware that these newfound ideas aren’t something I want to rush just to get her back, I want to be patient but have a hard time with it because I truly miss having my other half.
Does anyone have any book suggestions for this kind of relationship break? I just want to understand how I can be patient with waiting during this break, without risking the relationship entirely by going by emotions and instead be the mature person and wait it out for her sake but also for me.
Any help would be appreciated!
by MeatStick101