Hello! I am looking for any recommendations for a friend going through a breakup.
She is (to put it gently) stuck… he didn't love her the way she loved him, but she keeps coming up with reasons to reach out. Unfortunately, at this point everyone in her life is kind of at their limit with providing a listening ear except for me and I'm getting frustrated.
She is very contrary and stubborn, and the kind of person who needs to arrive at things herself. I'm trying to get her to understand some of the truths of a breakup for herself (i.e. the importance of no contact, stop centering him in her life — she wants to reach out to his friends and see how he's doing to "check in" but that is a terrible idea, etc etc.)
She read The Let Them Theory book and didn't get anything out of it, and said it felt like it was just "telling her not to feel the things she was feeling" which wasn't helpful to her.
I am thinking that self-help would be best for the type of honest clarity she needs, but fiction could be great too. I know a breakup hurts and I am trying to be the best friend I can be while also providing her with the tools to hear the truths that she ignores!!! If you've been in this spot, what helped you???
by InternationalMud5730
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A shift in focus. A book about something she enjoys or has in the past. Concentrating on anything else is probably a challenge right now, so a fun, short “guide” to one of her hobbies may help. And a gentle “let’s talk about this other thing!”