I am very much into existentialism , nihilism , solipsism and spirituality. I like to read theories about existence. I’ve had cptsd and I am also into self development and meditation. I believe in a good mindset and energies. My bf is the total opposite of that. He is logical and never had trauma. He tries to understand me but I feel like he has no understanding about digging deep into yourself and asking difficult questions.
So suggest me a book for beginners
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Maybe:
* The Inner Game of Tennis
* Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Neither one is exactly what you mean but both are fairly rational takes on self reflection that may be something that somebody more logically focused can attach to. Both are about self awareness and introspection. I tend more towards your BFs way of thinking and got something out of both of those.
They never landed for me but a lot of people recommend Joseph Cambell in the same sort of vein.
Edit: Also, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.
You might have him read The Body Keeps the Score to get more understanding of trauma and the ways of treating it.
The Outsiders by Colin Wilson is maybe the best/most accessible book on existentialism i have ever read.
Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships by Stan Tatkin. He explains how people think differently. Some people can think up an idea or response instantly, other people need to process the information. He talks about how/why different people think and react the way that they do. He talks about how a person’s childhood effects a person’s cognitive development and response. It really helped me to understand they way those closest to me think. I have more patience with people. I’m fast to respond/react and now I understand some people need time.
Hi There!
So I went through something similar with my husband as I have been going through my own mental health journey. My husband is also VERY logical and technical minded but has a creative flair to him. So self development style books didn’t help him as much to understand where I was. However, two books that did help were:
The Buddha and the Borderline by Kiera Von Gelder
– This is the authors search for effective treatment for her BPD and her recovery and journey. She dives deeply into self-development and spirituality.
The other is
If I Live Until Morning: A True Story of Adventure, Tragedy and Transformation by Jean Muenchrath
– In this one the author goes through a terrible physical accident and injury and it details her journey into recovery which lies deeply in her spirituality, meditation and self-development and discovery. Beautiful story and journey.
My husband has read both of them and it really helped him viewing through the lens of what people actually go through on these Journeys.