(NSFW)Hyper specific feminist/equitable smut request

Can’t believe I am making this post lmao. Here we go:

– Equitable relationship if relationship explored at all
– soft bdsm(no real gadgets, maybe rope), woman is dom, not a core theme necessarily
– smut or otherwise, ideally showcases healthy communication about sex and relationships. Especially within sex scenes, so depictions of consent or changing consent, discussions of comfort or discomfort, humorous depictions of common errors while attempting to do the seggs so lots of wholesome bonding in general(even with soft BDSM)
– either POV can work but male ideally, I am really REALLY interested to see how many such stories are out there written from male POV’s that don’t just devolve into objectifying fuckfests, bonus points if the male is written as showing consideration for the different elements and complexities of their partners bodies
– whichever gaze oriented, the healthiest and most humanizing ones you can think of
– somehow, remaining kinky or carnal af, doesn’t have to remain realistic, can get weird beyond that with unrealistic ejaculations or sex durations or whatever
– kind and loving, even in rough contexts/casual one night stand contexts. Respectful and consensual.

Does this even exist? Exploring AO3 and other places has mostly just netted me “the entire world is my masturbation machine” entries ngl, although there’s a good chance I suck ass at exploring properly.

EDIT:
Doesn’t need to fit every single criteria. If it gets at least some in with a priority given to the communication bullet point then it works!

by TheWriteReason