Of course, here is your situation in English:In each of my romantic relationships, I always take a backseat. My own desires are almost always put on the back burner. I’m constantly trying to make the other person happy, to solve any of their problems or concerns. Even if I have urgent matters to attend to, I can’t say I’m busy when they want to talk; I always make time to listen. One thing I’ve noticed is that my partners usually somehow pity themselves, and in my mind, there’s always the echo of needing to help them. Even if there are numerous reasons for the relationship not working out (for example, due to their behavior towards me), I still strive to keep the relationship going because of the thought that they love me and I’m good for them. And not even their family care for them (their statements) and that’s why I have to be with them otherwise no one will help them (this thought is not always clear cause I’m not always being with them because of this reason, there is of course love and dreams that we share together).
But it all ends in same way, they just shutdown themselves, they say they are so busy but they are not avoiding me. And I’m just tired. Even this time it lasted longer, it’s the same thing. That’s why I think I’m the problem or I have a problem. And I need to understand it. I would be happy if you recommend me books related to my situation.
by ben42theanswer