Context: I’m a recent divorcee (no kids) that grew up in a very conservative christian family. My brothers and I were very rebellious and are all now atheist… but that’s just an indicator of our separation from traditional thought. My mother never really taught us much about females or their thinking, and my dad has no real understanding of proper socializing. We are all pretty mechanically inclined and lean on our logic heavily throughout life. Break me from this mold, and help me balance letting my heart lead from time to time. PS. I’m very well traveled, and currently live in a smaller rural conservative area, if that matters.
Books I’ve read: outside of history, and conflict, I am not very well read in any topics surrounding love, romance, or relationships. I have read a couple books, but nothing as of late that introduces a non-Freudian view on connection. Here’s a list of what I’ve read so you can help me find some controversial or helpful books on the topics of interest:
“The Five Love Languages” – it was great to understand how to love, but not holistic enough
“She Comes First” – great way to learn about the female’s physical touch needs, and arousal and i am a giver, so this book was just great validation of sex education comprehension
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” – business is easy, people are hard, so learn how to interact with them
I’m finishing up “Mating in Captivity” and this has been quite informative on alternative thoughts on how ‘marriage/partnership’ will go through a waveform of emotions and strength of connection
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Where do I go now? Do i read about attachment theory (which seems to be the topic of the last two years by females)? What other books can I read as an open minded but not yet well educated male looking to be a great lover/partner towards any future women who show up in my life? The last post requesting content like this by a man was about 2 years ago, 2021-ish.
by digital_nomada