Seeking adult fantasy (and maybe sci-fi) focused on individual stories set against a backdrop of political intrigue/upheaval and/or war

I'm looking for adult fantasy (sci-fi suggestions welcome also, but I'm not into very hard sci-fi) books that focus on the small in the face of the monstrously large. The stories of individual people trying to make their way in a world wracked by upheaval and/or war at a scale possibly beyond their influence, possibly even their comprehension, of how they navigate the changing world and find ways to survive when forces outside of their control are shifting and moulding the world around them. The stories can certainly include those of the movers and shakers of the world, and if there's a world-ending threat obviously someone's going to need to save it, but I'm not super into detailed descriptions of deep political machinations and intrigue, I want the stories of people, not of nations.

Stand alones or series welcome. Prefer strong female main character(s) but not required, bonus points for LGBTQ+ representation. Not down for romance, though it's fine if it's a side thing. Very NOT interested in YA or NA, the more mature the book/characters the better (if it's a big expensive series with a whole bunch of characters, the inclusion of young POV characters is fine, but I want a mature, adult story). Dark is good, grimdark is good, horror less so but if it dips it's toe into that pool that's fine, but don't feel limited to just those subgenres, as long as it's not romantasy I'll give it a go (and honestly, as long as it's an adult story with mature, fully realized characters, I'd consider romance/romance-adjacent, though likely with extreme prejudice, but I don't know if that's even a thing).

I'm fine with graphic physical violence, but if you're suggesting anything with sexual violence, especially on-screen explicit sexual violence, please add a non-spoilery trigger warning so I know what I'm getting into (it's not a deal breaker but I might want to do some research before committing, I do have my limits, and don't especially want that sprung on me without warning). If there is a dog/animal companion, PLEASE spoil it for me if it dies, I'm fine with the existence of dead animals and even the on-screen death of animals in a general/detached kind of way, but if a main character's beloved pet/animal companion dies tragically in front of them I want to know explicitly (it may seem silly but for me it's not).

No idea if this is too specific a request or not, this is my first time asking for a suggestion here, but I'm looking to get back on the reading train after getting myself back on the writing train, this is what I like to write, so…