What’s a smutty contemporary book that doesn’t have a toxic, possessive, abusive love interest

Think Red White and Royal Blue but a lot smuttier. I do want the hardcore filth, I do want morally gray characters, I would like to read something with BDSM, or not. I just don't want them to be abusive and toxic and "owning" the person. No romanticised rape or assault or forced intercourse like prostitution. Ideally the scenes will be many and jaw dropping, the plot will be at least enough to hold it together and good, and not toxic. Everything else is optional. Please let me know if you have any suggestions