Short-ish summary for context, hope it guides me to the right book(s):
- F + F relationship, both in our early 30s.
- We both lived in the same city then she moved across the country for work.
- The relationship was the best one I've ever been in. Very mature, kind, honest, respectful, lots of communication, love was always present.
- No cheating, or at least that I know of. Never had the "feeling" that could lead me to think there was another person. She never behaved differently either.
- She ended things about a month ago due to a combination of work-related burnout and distance. She said this was also the best relationship she's ever been in, but the distance was really taking a toll on her.
I saw the distance as something temporary and therefore “bearable” because I was actively working toward eventually moving to where she was. I felt anger at first, thinking she didn't fight for us. I felt like something that could be easily discarded. Nonetheless, things ended in a peaceful manner.
I'm going to therapy now, which has been very helpful. I'd like to read something I could relate to — to learn, to ease my mind, I don't know. Something.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
by gueralma