I personally have workbooks for a bunch of books on survivors of it and how to cope with parents like that. But I am looking for a book to give to my mom that could possibly open her eyes to how she’s emotionally unintelligent? I want our relationship to be fixed but she doesn’t respect my boundaries and when I try to express it she gets defensive and upset. Any recommendations on any books?
by Acrobatic_Elk_4314
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You could try, if she would want it, giving her something like the compassionate mind workbook. That would maybe a little bit, if she wanted it to, help her to tap into and be more aware of compassion for herself, for others, and receiving it from others being safe and possible.
Big HOWEVER- I’m so sorry but you can’t change her, unless she really wants to change she won’t. It can’t be you to change her and very probably not a book. Does she seek out self-help books of her own accord?
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that; I am in a similar situation with my mother. Unfortunately I agree with Junimo-Crossing – unless your mother wants to change, she’s going to get defensive and upset when you give her a book trying to change her. Better to focus on healing yourself and being firm with your boundaries and following through on consequences when your boundaries are crossed.
Adult children of emotionally immature parents if you want to be blunt