So me (31M) and my partner (30F) have been together for some time now, 7months. The relationship was amazing and I couldn’t find a serious flaw in the woman. I knew she had a past long term relationship (5yrs) with a Ex who was extremely abusive, physically and mentally.
They have been broken up for a little over 2years.
About 2 weeks ago, we got into a small argument, which triggered her, called me her Exs name, and essentially she said she has a mental block with me. She has become a Avoidant attachment style since then and now states if she doesn’t know she’s ready for a relationship. She loves me and wants to be with me but doesn’t want to hold me up while she heals. Discussing if we should still be together is for another day but I worry about her and want to help the best I can. Of course therapy is what I’m gonna help her do but is there a book that can help gives the tools to start the healing process and possibly discuss the avoidant attachment style and how to become more secure with it.
Thank you in advanced.
by Itschaboy007
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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn are the only things I have ever read that fit this criteria but in the fantasy section Tess of the Road by Rachel Hartman might help u, hope this helps