Hello! I’ve come to realize that my mood is far too dependent on my wife’s emotions, or even my false assumption of her thoughts or judgements. My wife is truly amazing, and I wholeheartedly believe this is something that I need to work on rather than an issue with her.
If she seems short, on edge, or disappointed, I take it way too hard and spiral myself. Especially if I feel as though I contributed to the situation or am unable to help them.
This has led me to being much more of a “thermometer” rather than a “thermostat” when it comes to my emotions. I want to learn how to think and feel for myself rather than match the energy (or my negative bias assumption of the energy) of those around me. I also want to be able to help her through difficult times without compounding the issue by also being so down on myself.
Any book recommendations would be incredibly helpful, either directly or indirectly related to this issue!
by Late_Night_Redditor