Hi guys! My partner’s birthday is coming up and she doesn’t want to make a big thing out of it since she mentioned she dislikes birthdays as it reminds her about the passage of time and how she wants to be taken back to good moments and adult responsibilities.
I was thinking of getting her a book as a thoughtful gesture. I had something along the lines of “Oh the places you’ll go” by Dr Seuess and annotate the inside of the book with messages about how even though this book is about the passage of time it can be reframed into how she doesn’t need to go anywhere to be enough and that its okay to be still for awhile. However, I’m not sure if this the theme of the book properly suits the message I want to send since it’s literally about the passage of time. I was wondering if there were any books that would fit my gift idea better!
TLDR: I want a book to annotate for my gf’s birthday that is about how its okay to be where she is right now.
by hamsterwithautism
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This is a thoughtful gift idea, but do you think your girlfriend would feel like you were being a bit patronizing? If I didn’t like my birthday and someone tried to change my mind about it with a kid’s book, I might feel a bit miffed. Just something to consider. But obviously you know your partner better!
Instead of annotating the book with messages about being still and present, you could find a book that actually shares those messages through the story.
Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt might be a good book for your GF because it explores aging.