My friend recently escaped an abusive relationship, is wound tight as a spring, having trouble at work because of it, and now her mother may be facing a Parkinsons diagnosis. I think I need a help-others-help-themselves book?

I've seen a couple online including "Healing A Friend's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas…" and others on the Center for Loss & Life Transition website.

My concerns are thus:

– I don't really point compare books online often, so I don't know how to tell which ones are good

– In the case of the 100 Practical Ideas… book and others like it, it would have to be advice that I can at least mostly translate into something that works for an online/long distance friend. My friend and I are close and have been for many years, the issue is just that I can't do things like take her out to lunch to ease her mind.

I coach her on how to recover from trauma here and there, it's just something I've become good at through my own experiences over the years. But I think I am close to being in over my head. I know enough not to make it an issue for myself. Just could use some professional guidance.

So, in short:

– I need a book that is geared for helping a friend recover from abuse, trauma, and maybe grief. Hopefully including stuff like how to effectively soothe and what kinds of advice to give.

– It has to be stuff applicable to a long distance friendship, i.e. mostly about conversation.

– I don't need to be nor am I her therapist. I'm just a friend trying to be her rock.

Thanks, everyone!