I know therapy is probably best, but I’m unable to do that right now. I’d love to do it hopefully next year.
In the meantime. I’d like to be better at…socializing? Being more charismatic? Not to manipulate people. But I want to make good friends, and keep them. I’m often unsure what the social etiquette is, and I often feel like everyone is just way better at “being human” than I am. Is there a book that talks about how to keep friends? How often to reach out to them? How to be approachable? Mostly I feel like I’m an awkward/poor conversationalist. I have so much empathy and compassion but I’m not good at communicating with new people, so I come off cold or distant. I’d love something that provides tips for that.
I’d also love recommendations for books that can help me relax and not sweat the small stuff. I overthink. I’m not good with change, or going with the flow. I have ADHD, so I get overwhelmed quickly. I hate that I stress about “first world problems” as often as I do. I admire the people in my life who have their shit together but are also adaptable and resilient in the sense that they don’t stress about non-important things. It doesn’t change their mood.
(I do have friends/spouse/kid and family, but I want to be a better person in those relationships, and be better at nurturing new friends I may find)
Thanks for the help!
by Whirlywynd