Looking for a book about what it means to “be a man” that is written by a man

Disclaimer: I am not looking for a 'meninist' book or anything to do with that group of people.

I've read a lot of feminist, and queer books around the challenges that these groups face or overcome, but I have lacked this perspective.

I am looking for a book about what it means to "be a man" in the modern age. How to be kind, while also being thrust into the provider/protector role or even about the challenges men face on a daily basis. Specifically, written by men to understand their perspective.

I understand this is controversial, but there seems to be a lack of posts and it's something I am genuinely curious about.