any book recommendations to help me stop seeking male validation / being codependent? (18F)

i’m 18f and i’ve noticed that pretty much my whole life i’ve based my worth around guys. whether it’s needing attention, wanting to be liked, or constantly getting into relationships just to feel wanted — it’s exhausting and i’m tired of it. i recently got out of a really toxic relationship and i’m realizing how much of myself i’ve lost because of this pattern.

i really want to change and learn how to find validation within myself instead of from men, but i don’t even know where to start. are there any books (or even podcasts, videos, etc.) that helped you with codependency, self-worth, or breaking this cycle?

i’d love to hear what actually helped you start building confidence and independence again.