Romance novels without excessive s*x scenes?

I don’t want to read soft p*rn but I love romantic stories. So far everything I’ve come across has had an unnecessary quantity of detailed intimate scenes. I understand that intimacy is a core element in how love can unravel between two or more people, but I just want to have it included in a tasteful manner.

Does anyone have suggestions for romance novels, of any genre (fantasy and sci fi is welcomed), that has a romance plot line (or subplot) that isn’t just a cringy trope and p*rn??? I know that a few intimate scenes are probably going to show up, but right now it feels like they are forced in and overly detailed. If I wanted that, I’d just go to Ao3 like in the old days.

It would be nice to read a series with flawed characters who have to experience a range of the difficult emotions associated with love, and who don’t have their lives completely engulfed by it. Basically just a realistic reflection of what it means to deal with love and life. It doesn’t even have to be the main plot line.

I do not have any triggers and will read novels that include stressful topics. Any genre is fine, but the characters have to be adults, I would rather not read about teenagers.

Thanks <3 I hope this isn’t an unrealistic ask!

Note: I am not hating on spicy books! I am just a little frustrated because I, personally, do not like reading super spicy books. If that’s your thing then awesome! Go for it! Just not me lol.