Hi everyone,
I’m 24F and was diagnosed with ADHD at 21.
Before diagnosis, I dropped out of college, stayed inside my room most of the time, avoided people, and struggled badly with social anxiety. After getting diagnosed and starting medication, some things improved. But I still feel like I’m constantly sabotaging my own life.
My biggest issues:
• If a conversation becomes difficult, I go completely blank.
• I sometimes lie just to escape uncomfortable situations.
• Or I shut down and avoid it entirely.
• I make impulsive decisions like quitting a job just because I don’t feel like going.
• I struggle to control my emotions and react immediately without thinking.
• In relationships, I become obsessive and neglect my own needs.
• Even then, I get angry over small things and start fights.
• I speak before I think and regret it later.
• I try routines, stick to them for 1–2 days, then completely drop them.
Right now, I’m honestly tired of myself. I want to change. I don’t want to keep repeating the same patterns.
I recently started reading Crucial Conversations and I find it helpful for communication, but I feel like I need more than that.
Can anyone recommend books (or anything else) that genuinely helped with:
• Emotional regulation
• Impulsivity
• Communication
• Relationship patterns
• Actually sticking to habits
I’m open to hard truths. I just want something that works.
by pinkylill