I (28F) recently lost my partner (31M) of just under 4 years in an unexpected accident. Being so young this is such a shock. I've lost people in the past but this has truly rocked me to my core. Everything hurts and I'm more exhausted than I knew was possible. Does anyone have any book recommendations that may help with coping with this? I'm seeking out a therapist as well but I thought this might be helpful in the meantime. Honestly any recommendations at all would be appreciated even if they aren't book related. I just want to get through this. Thanks in advance.
by Shellyroberta
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Sum by David Eagleman
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine helped me tremendously during a loss. The author lost her husband in their early 30s to an accident, so I think it may be particularly relevant for your situation.
One of the poems that has helped me is Rumi’s Bird Wings:
Your grief for what you’ve lost lifts a mirror
up to where you are bravely working.
Expecting the worst, you look, and instead,
here’s the joyful face you’ve been wanting to see.
Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.
If it were always a fist or always stretched open,
you would be paralysed.
Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and
expanding,
the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated
as birdwings.
The other thing that has helped me is the Jamie Anderson’s writings: “Grief is love with nowhere to go.”