The way I live lately has felt exhausting and I am on a hunt for books that get down to your neural patterns and completely change them up. Im obsessed with what others think of me and I just want to live in my own world and be at peace with myself and not feel the need to desperately cling to outside validation. I'm so tired of wondering if so and so is mad at me and why is this person not texting me back and just placing SO much importance on other people every single day to end up exhausted and uncomfortable in my own skin.
There are sooooo many self help books out there, but all I need are 2-3 solid ones that have helped others in my situation so please lmk what books you read that shook up your entire perspective and made an impact on who you are today/allowed you to grow into a better version of yourself. Open to anything and thanks in advance.
by Any-Dragonfly-3296
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oh man i went through exactly this phase around 30 and it was brutal. the book that really shifted something in my brain was “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” – i know the title sounds like clickbait but it actually digs deep into choosing what deserves your mental energy and what doesn’t
also “feeling good” by david burns helped me understand how my thoughts were creating these anxiety spirals about what people think. its bit older but the cognitive techniques in there are solid for breaking those “why didn’t they text back” loops
those two books basically taught me that most people are too busy worrying about their own stuff to judge me as much as i thought they were. took some practice but the relief when you start believing it is incredible