Psychologists talk about the big four: Diet, Exercise, Sleep, Mindfulness. Not hating yourself boils down to doing the things that make you proud of yourself. The only thing that counts in this regard is action, literal effort. Moving. Doing the thing. Setting a deadline and doing the thing. And at the risk of being redundant, effort is the cure.
If you’re giving 100%, doing the things that make yourself proud of you, there’s no turning back. But I cannot stress this enough, it’s the fucking *effort* that counts.
Find a few books in each of the categories above and become conversationally literate in each. I’ll offer my recommendations, but don’t stop there. Use them as a stepping stone to learn more.
**Diet** *How Not to Diet* –Michael Gregor
**Exercise** *Spark* –John Ratey
**Sleep** *Why We Sleep* –Matthew Walker
**Mindfulness** *Waking Up* –Sam Harris
Sometimes I see a fifth column added for either education or community. Often to fill a missing aspect of someone’s life. Older people may not benefit from a second college degree, but may need to find a group of friends, whereas, young people likely have a community in place but might benefit from more schooling.
*Shop Class as Soulcraft* –Matthew Crawford
Here are a few recommendations to get your ass in gear. The usual three:
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Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
Psychologists talk about the big four: Diet, Exercise, Sleep, Mindfulness. Not hating yourself boils down to doing the things that make you proud of yourself. The only thing that counts in this regard is action, literal effort. Moving. Doing the thing. Setting a deadline and doing the thing. And at the risk of being redundant, effort is the cure.
If you’re giving 100%, doing the things that make yourself proud of you, there’s no turning back. But I cannot stress this enough, it’s the fucking *effort* that counts.
Find a few books in each of the categories above and become conversationally literate in each. I’ll offer my recommendations, but don’t stop there. Use them as a stepping stone to learn more.
**Diet** *How Not to Diet* –Michael Gregor
**Exercise** *Spark* –John Ratey
**Sleep** *Why We Sleep* –Matthew Walker
**Mindfulness** *Waking Up* –Sam Harris
Sometimes I see a fifth column added for either education or community. Often to fill a missing aspect of someone’s life. Older people may not benefit from a second college degree, but may need to find a group of friends, whereas, young people likely have a community in place but might benefit from more schooling.
*Shop Class as Soulcraft* –Matthew Crawford
Here are a few recommendations to get your ass in gear. The usual three:
*Make Your Bed* –McRaven
*The Comfort Crisis* –Michael Easter
*Do Hard Things* –Steve Magness